Venting Vainly

Ever have one of those days when nothing seems to go the way you had planned? We all do. Our natural reaction is to vent about these things. We want to get what is wrong off our chest. We want to share our opinion with others. We say what we feel without even thinking what others might think. We might be angry and in our anger bad things might come out.

We might think nothing of venting about whatever it is that bothers us. “If they don’t like it, too bad, don’t listen.” “It’s a free world, I can say whatever I want.”  “Freedom of speech, deal with it!”  I used to think that.

We have to be very careful with our words. Once they come out of our mouth they can’t be brought back. Hurtful things that we say can be forgiven, but they will never be forgotten. We don’t’ know how long our words will stay with someone. (I have an idea it is a long time). The tongue is unruly and our sinful nature inspires evil words. Remember that old adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Freedom of speech doesn’t mean you should always say what’s on your mind. Sometimes silence is golden.

We have opportunities to build people up or bring them down with our words. Just because we are having a bad day or something didn’t go the way we wanted it to, is no reason to make everyone around us have a bad day too. Saying something with a temporary upset mood can hurt someone permanently. It could take years to repair the damage, or in some cases the damage will never be repaired. Think before you speak, that’s why God gave us two ears and one mouth. Changing the way you think, can change the way you feel.

What can I say today that will make you feel great and leave a lasting impression for years to come?




Can you become unsaved?  Apparently there is much controversy over this topic. Personally I don’t think you can. I have no doubt that once you are saved, you’re saved. 1 John 5:11-13 is the assurance of salvation. God has given us eternal life. Eternal life is an infinite duration. He who has the Son has life, he who does not have the Son does not have life. Once we have the Son, nothing can separate us. Romans 8:38-39 states that absolutely nothing—neither death, nor life, no angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate believers from God’s love. If God, the uncreated One, is for us and no created thing can separate us, then our security in Him is absolute.

Take a look at Ephesians 1:4-5 “… He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.” Why would God make a mistake? From God’s perspective, we have been glorified already because He sees us righteous because of the work of Jesus on the Cross. In the march of time we still must undergo the process of being conformed to the image of God’s Son. Romans 12:2 … do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

I don’t think you can become unsaved. There will be trials and tribulations. There will be mistakes made. There will be sin and temptations. Romans 8:36 For Your sake we are killed all day long, we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. For those who love God have always had to face death daily.

It’s a daily struggle. It’s why we keep short accounts with God. We pray, we struggle, we pray some more. We have assurance of forgiveness 1 John 1:9 if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. He will guide us. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. He will strengthen us Philippians 4:13 I can do all things though Him who gives me strength.

Being like Jesus is not about keeping the rules, it’s about knowing His forgiveness and committing acts of grace and mercy on a consistent basis. It’s about living a life that values all people. It’s about surrendering our heart to the will of our Father in heaven. Matthew 6:33 But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you.

I would love to hear your thoughts on being unsaved.

Keep the faith and may God bless you.



Have you ever been tempted? If you say no, I won’t believe you. Temptations are all around us. We are tempted over and over again throughout each day. Tempted to say an unkind word to our spouse. Tempted to tell a customer off. Tempted to say something unprofessional to a co-worker. Tempted to skip school and hang out at the beach with friends because the weather is too nice to be in school. Tempted to call off work because there is something better or more fun to do than work. Temped to tell that dingbat barista what an idiot she is because you asked for soy and she gave you dairy.

Valid temptations that become reality. Those are things we can control. Bite our tongue when we’d rather not. Go to school. Go to work. Kindly ask the barista to remake the drink, even though it is going to set you back twenty minutes.

What about the things we have no control over? The temptations that catch us off guard. The other woman. The other man. The parking lot driver who backs into your car. The PTA meeting with the teacher who tells you how to raise your child. The two-year old throwing a temper tantrum in the grocery store because she wants candy. Moments where temptations have presented themselves and you are in the position to make a choice. You have the opportunity to respond or react. When you react, the temptation controls you. When you respond, you are in control. Easier said than done, for sure.

People continuously ask to not be led into temptation. It’s easier to not be put in a position where we have to react or respond. Matthew 6:13: And do not lead us into temptation…a good prayer to begin each day.  But if we are, we can always fall back on 1 Corinthians 10:13:  And God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able but with the temptation will also make a way of escape to that you may be able to bear it. This is one of my favorite verses. God is so good that He will not let us experience anything that we are not prepared for. We have a choice with every temptation that presents itself. It’s up to us to make that choice to react or respond. Endurance will bring reward.