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Now that April is over the writing on a daily basis fell on the wayside. Not that I don’t have anything to say, I do. I have been trying to get caught up on all the other things I let slide. So many projects and activities I want to do. Cooking and playing in the garden and planting flowers, and building rock walls… and then of course there is work. Doesn’t my boss know how much my job interferes with my hobbies? (I’m just kidding) – I’m grateful to have my “work-at-home” job, especially in this day and age.

First of all, I’d like to say thank you to all of my readers who followed my daily posts for the blogging challenge. It was nice to have the support and encouragement and I appreciate each and every one of you. For me, it was nice to check off another year (this makes six to date if anyone is counting). I’m really going to try to post more often throughout the year, be it here or on Joe & Ella’s Journey or in Crackerberries Kitchen. As long as I’m writing something, I’m happy. How about you?

So my rant for the day is all the freaking idiots out there who can’t follow simple instructions. People blame the politicians for the things that are going on. Okay fine, but you know what, we live in a free country. It was our right to vote, and democracy put those politicians in office so if you don’t like it, next time you should get out there and vote. And if you did vote and still don’t like it maybe it’s time to get yourself involved. 

We may not like the way things are being handled but it is our responsibility to abide by the laws and the rules that are being put in place. This shit ain’t never gonna go away if we don’t follow instructions. I don’t like it any more than the next person. But we do have to follow the guidelines set in place if we are going to get through this and maybe have some kind of new normal put in place.

We went to Walmart over the weekend. They now have the aisles set up with tape on the floor going in certain directions similar to the painted lines in the parking lot. They have tape barriers where lines form for the people who don’t know the difference between two feet and six feet. People still can’t follow the instructions. They can’t go down the right aisles in the parking lot whatever gave people the idea they would do it right in the store?  It was crazy, people were looking at each other, who were looking at the arrows, like it was something they had never seen before.  They were like a swarm of flies buzzing around a pile of shit not knowing which way to go.

What pisses me off to no end is when I wait my turn and someone waltzes right in front of me like I didn’t exist.  I was at the yogurt cooler waiting to get my Oikos …there was an elderly couple arguing about something. They finally agreed to disagree and each one picked different yogurts and put them in the cart (ingenious), then sauntered on their way. Before I could take a step up to the cooler, some idiot with ear-pods and his hat half-way backwards on his head stepped right in front of me. He was wearing a mask over his mouth but not over his nose. He also needed to pull up his damn pants.  He decides to take five minutes to text his girlfriend about what yogurts were available in the cooler. If I could have hit him without getting in trouble, trust me.  I would have laid his ass out flat. I fantasied about knocking the hat off his damn head giving him a wedgie with those boxer shorts up around his scrawny little neck. Just because they are wearing a mask they feel that they are invulnerable and can do whatever they want. So annoying! Especially when they aren’t even wearing the mask right. Hey dumbass, the cloth face cover is not a substitute for social distancing.

I’m tired of seeing stupid posts on social media platforms about how smart everyone thinks they are. OMG really? Instead of just sharing what someone else is sharing, try researching a little. Ever hear of snopes.com? They have been around longer than any social media platform. People are crazy out there. They will take any tidbit of information, twist it and turn it around until it’s something that makes them look smarter or makes someone else look bad. It’s a terrible world we live in full of crazed killers, drug addicts, as well as unscrupulous companies out to make a buck at any cost, and a government that doesn’t give a damn. I stole that from Snopes… but am I right? Maybe only half the world is made up of those types of people. The other half is made up of gullible imbeciles who believe the rest of the world. Oh Chicken Little, the sky is falling, the sky is falling!

Anyways, that’s my rant. I think the virus has turned people crazy. Unfortunately I fear it’s only going to get worse. If I had a solution believe me I would share it. I think our leaders, as misguided as they may be, are doing the best they can with the people they have helping support them. We have to do our part and abide by the rules and regulations being put in place. If not for ourselves, for those less fortunate: (i.e. the elderly, people in nursing homes, people who are at a higher risk due to being HIV positive, having Asthma, just a weaker immune system, etc).  Have some compassion for others.

Until next time,
Cheers,

Perilous Times

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I spoke truth and came under attack. Co-winkie-dinks? Doubt it. A photo was under fire for containing nudity — it was a picture of the White House decked out in gay pride colors. My aliases on WordPress were questioned, and I was accused of having multiple personalities (don’t all writers?) Facebook decided I wasn’t who I said I was, and prohibited me from my account until I agreed to use my given name, and not my pseudonym. It appears that Facebook is okay with pets having their own accounts, but writers can’t use their pseudonyms.

If you don’t think perilous times are here think again. 1 Timothy 4:1-2 – Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron … some people will depart from their faith — not losing salvation, but failing to walk obediently. Walking obediently. Walking according to God’s word.

It’s difficult to walk the straight and narrow when the world around us is filled with sin. It would be so much easier to conform to the way of life around us because everyone else is doing it. I won’t lie, these past few months have been difficult.  I feel angry, hurt, disappointed and deceived all wrapped up into one huge-mungus sucky emotion. But it is not okay just because everyone else is doing it.

Praise God Tall Cool ☺ne and I both have our health. But staying positive hasn’t been easy. No matter how bleak things seem, how much we feel like some people use and abuse us, there is ONE we can always count on. He is always there, along the way. He will guide us through the good, the bad, the evil and the positive. He laid down His life for us. He has brought us through all kinds of experiences and I have no doubt He will bring us through this one, too.

Tone of Voice

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Today’s T word is Tone. All about tone. Tone of voice, tone of email, tone of text, tone of comment, just plain tone. Tone is an attitude of a writer toward the subject or an audience. It is generally conveyed through a choice of words and the viewpoint of the communicator.

Tone of Voice: Ever answer the phone and the person on the other end uses your full name and kind of shouts it a little bit? My mother does it to me when she has called a couple of times (we don’t have an answering machine) and I am unable to answer the phone. She’s angry because I didn’t answer the first time or two when she called so she thinks taking it out in tone of voice is going to make her feel better. I don’t know if it makes her feel better but it only makes me want to revert to the defensive and use my own tone of voice back. Hello? I don’t sit by the phone all day long waiting for it to ring so I can answer it.

Tone of Email: Have you sent an email that has been abrupt and to the point, not because you meant for it to be that way, but because you have been in a hurry, have a hundred things to do, and just don’t have time for casual chit-chit? I have. It’s not a good thing because the person on the other end of the email reads it and thinks that you don’t have time for them. Maybe so, but that is far from the tone that you were trying to accomplish. Responding to an email needs to have the same care used in tone of voice on the phone.

Tone of Text: Have you received a text from someone and interpreted it completely a different way than they mean it? Could be that their auto correct incorrectly corrected (a lot of corrections there) a word that wasn’t meant to be used. For example your boyfriend texts you and asks “Do you want to meet for pizza after work?” You respond, “No I don’t. I have too much to do tonight.” But auto correct changes it to “No idiot. I have Tom to do tonight.” Uh-oh. Not good. Be careful on those text messages.

Tone of Comment: This happens all the time on Facebook. Friendships are lost because of tone of comment. You say something that is meant to be funny but depending on the mood of the person who posted what others are commenting on, could be taken how it was not intended. Tone of comment can significantly alter how audiences respond. Think about what you really want to mean when you make that next comment. Is it appropriate for ALL audiences or is it something that might be better shared just among friends?

Just some food for thought. Hope you enjoyed the T for Tone Blog. What kind of tone issues have you run into before? Please let me hear your thoughts in the comments section. Be sure to check out some of the other bloggers today.

 

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Asking for Help

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So I’ve decided to try something new. I’ve never actually done this before so it will be a new experience for me. Next week my husband begins a new adventure and will on a four-week course. (That’s all I’m going to say about it because this is not about him, although feel free to pray for Gods will to be done for him while he is on this life changing course.)

While he is completing his goal, I have one myself that I want to complete. I want to finish my novel The Salt-Water Killings, and I need your help. In the midst of completing my novel, I’ve also signed up for the Blogging A-Z challenge, which is writing a blog on a daily basis for the month of April. There is still time to sign up if you haven’t.  OH and I’m a little bit of a twit on that note, because when I signed up I did it twice. (Pay attention to the instructions!) The first time I forgot to add the code at the end so people would know what my blog is about. I meant to put in WR for writing and storytelling, but somehow I got AC for adult content. I should apologize here because there will be no adult content unless you consider an occasional swear word adult content. Sorry for the confusion. And let’s not forget to mention my daily chores and tasks that go along with keeping a household in order that need to be completed.

My sister once said, “Your need for attention has no limit.” She is correct, it has no limit. The only thing that makes me different from ninety percent of the rest of the world is I can admit it. We all want and crave attention.

Why do we have Facebook? Don’t give me that horse shit answer “to stay in touch with distant relatives.” Write a letter! The reason people have Facebook is because they want to be in everybody’s face to tell them what is important in their life. Why do we blog? To share our opinions. Why do we write books? Because we have so much inside us if we don’t write it, it will make us explode.

For the next four weeks I need your help. I need support and encouragement. I want people to ask me how I’m doing. “How many words did you write today?” and “How many chapters were you able to edit?” or “Did you get that chapter tweaked that needed to be changed?” I want people to encourage me every single day. “Hey, I have a great idea for the letter ‘G’ if you don’t have a topic.” Even just a simple, “Hope your book editing is going good today.”

It is so true that writing is a sad and lonely career. Too many people think it’s a hobby. Trust me, if I were choosing a hobby, it wouldn’t be sitting around pulling my hair out trying to come up with just the right words to tell a story so that it is meaningful and interesting. I’d be socializing and drinking and playing golf at some fancy-schmancy country club.

So help me out, help me reach my goal by being encouraging, motivational, supportive. You might even pray for me if you are so inclined. I know it is a lot to ask of people because you have your own lives and your own goals and desires. But I figured I might as well ask. The worst thing that can happen is nothing happens and I go it alone, just like I always have.

The Challenge

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The Challenge

 We had fun watching everyone and their brother do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge on Facebook and most of the news channels. Has it worn out yet? I think it made its way through all of my contacts. Some of the videos were hysterical to watch while others were sad and even scary. For a good cause, it was really too bad about the people who got hurt … or worse … in the challenge.

The new phase that has hit my group of friends that l I’m seeing is called The Grateful/Gratitude Challenge  www.gratitudechallenge.com  I really like the idea of the challenge because I believe the more grateful you are for what you have, the more content and happy you are inside. I don’t think it should be called a challenge though. I think it should be called The Gratitude Attitude. We should remind ourselves daily of the things we are thankful and grateful for and not do it just because we are tagged in a dare. Read The Purpose Driven Life (Rick Warren). It’s a great book that will help you while pondering on gratefulness and gratitude.

During our walk in the dark this morning, Tall Cool ne and I were discussing the challenges and the things we read that others do or say on Facebook. We as a people, all crave attention. We want to hear that atta-boy, good job, way-to-go. These auditions on Facebook made me think a little bit about that, and why we are all confronted with the same challenge.

Challenge: a summons that is often threatening, provocative, stimulating, or inciting; an invitation to compete in a sport; the act or process of provoking or testing physiological activity by exposure to an antigen.

After I read the definition of what a challenge is, I came to the conclusion that every day my life is a challenge. I read stimulating and provocative things on my computer every day, and sometimes I have a hard time restraining myself from commenting back at how stupid or ignorant people are. Every morning my husband plays the mean drill sergeant and at 4:40 AM we are out of the bed and stretching. Then we head out for our walk, which is down an uninhabited dirt road, in the dark, which I am extremely afraid of (the dark, not the road). Later in the day I wrestle with the elements of it being too hot or too cold because there is never a happy medium.

I know you think I’m joking about living a challenge every day. We all do. Each and every one of us have a challenge. It is different for each person. Some people do well in some areas where others wouldn’t do well at all. We can complain about it, or we can deal with it. It is all in perspective … the way that you look at things. I realize that my life is good. I am so thankful for the life I have. Every day I get to wake up and go for a walk and even though I joke about Tall Cool ☺ne being a drill sergeant, he is doing it for our good health. If you don’t have your health, nothing else really matters. There is something good in everything. Some days the challenge is finding it.

Sometimes I bitch about the things people email me or post on Facebook, but I have a choice. If I don’t like it, I don’t have to read it. We have a choice to be content or discontent. If we look at the negative side of things all the time, that will make us negative. Look at the glass half full. We have to practice euphemism.

So, with that said, that is my challenge for the rest of the year. Practicing euphemism: the substitution of an agreeable or inoffensive expression for one that may offend or suggest something unpleasant. And if anyone sees or reads me not doing it, speak up and remind me!  I implore you to do the same.

Being Successful as a Writer

Being A Successful Writer

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I lost my way for a short time. I got involved in the social media thing … you know the Facebook novel promotions and that sort of thing that ‘people in the business’ say is what you need to do. Quite frankly, I think ‘people in the business’ are full of shit. They want you to think they know what they are talking about. But if they are so good at telling you how to sell books, how come they aren’t selling their own? Why are they writing articles on “HOW TO DO IT.”? How come there are so many authors turned into publishers? I don’t really think a good publisher can also be a good author and vice-versa. Just my opinion. Personally, I think when that is done, someone is looking for a way to make more money because they suck at being an author or they suck at being a publisher… they can’t be good at both. It’s not a job you can multi-task well.  They’re in it for the wrong reasons.

Those book promo sites on Facebook are people doing the same thing. Sell the book. It might get one or two sales, but that’s not the place you want to put your time and effort into promoting and selling your books. I thought I had to do what everyone else was doing because “they said” that’s what you have to do to be successful. I can tell you right now, I’ve been doing this writing thing for a lot of years. If you ask me if I think I’m successful at it, my answer would be, “Yes, I’m very successful at it. I’ve written millions.”

Does that mean I’m successful at making money at writing my millions? Well, not exactly. That’s a whole new nonfiction novel — which I don’t do. You see, the way I figure it, there is success in writing and there is success in making money. So far as I can tell, the two don’t really go together, unless, of course, you are Stephen King. I like to tell people I’m not in it for the money. But that’s kind of a lie because who doesn’t want to make money? It would be a sweet gig if I could make a lot of money doing what I love to do. Right now that doesn’t seem to be the case, but I’m too old to find a new hobby as so many people like to refer to my addiction that I have with writing.

Seriously though, I’m in it because … well if I don’t write I get really moody and sometimes I need to do it to vent. It’s almost like an addiction to, say, cigarettes. I can use that as an example because I quit that habit – in fact next month will make eight years. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I’ve slipped up quite a few times since then and had me a clove cigar every now and again. I will probably continue to slip up every once in a while, but I don’t have that nagging desire to go have a smoke every hour or so like I did for 22 years. Now writing, that nagging desire is there even in my sleep. I do some of my best writing in my sleep. I don’t think I could ever give it up. I’ve tried, but it just keeps coming back to haunt me. I have to get those ideas and thoughts down.

So I have published a few books and am working on a new novel and a holiday cookbook. I’m also looking for new innovative ways to promote my writing. That’s the hard part of the business. In a few days I’ll see that some of the followers on social media will suddenly be doing the same thing with a holiday cookbook or something to that effect. If you are good at what you do, people are going to try to duplicate you. The way to find out if you’re successful is when you look around and see others copying what you do … this means they are watching you. This means you are good at doing what you do. It’s like that saying on the Mike’s Hard Lemonade label, “If you’re gonna be original you can count on being copied.”

Not that I’m original, there is nothing new under the sun. I just look for innovative ways to make old shit look like new shit. When people copy you, accept it as a compliment and move on to the next task at hand. People can write about the same topic as you, but they can’t write like you. You are an original writer and no one can take that away from you. Do what you do and don’t worry about anything else. If you were meant to be successful at making money, you will make lots of money. If you were meant to be successful at writing, you will write a lot. If you were meant to be successful at making lots of money from writing, well you have one hell of a talent!

Do You Have Mail?

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Dear Email Recipient:

You have received this email in an attempt to collect a response. The sender of this email has made the effort to contact you for whatever reason. Please review previous message(s).

You have put this email on the back burner and decided to respond to it at your convenience, which is not convenient to the sender — otherwise you wouldn’t be receiving this email. Perhaps you have made the decision to not respond at all. Shame on you!

Incase you were wondering, approximately twenty years ago, email was a tool set up to be used as a way to communicate in offices internally.  It was easier to send files electronically rather than taking the flight of stairs to the eighth or thirteenth floor.  It later became a more efficient and cost-effective way to communicate with people all over the world instead of telephone or the old fashion letter.  Email was made as a way to benefit and profit humanity.  Unfortunately with all things that are made to promote lives, too many people abuse the system and don’t use it in the way that it was intended.

If you believe you have received this email in error, please, double-check your in-box. There may be an email waiting for a response. Don’t delay. Take care of it today.

Sincerely,

Concerned Email Sender

P.S. If you are busy and don’t have time to read your email on a daily basis, perhaps you need to re-evaluate where you spend your time (playing games on Facebook or tweeting the latest sports scores).